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Recently I had a woman call me. She was crying and obviously in great distress. An unfortunately familiar story began to unfold…

The woman had paid a so-called psychic to reunite her with her past love. She had never actually had a real relationship with this man – she had adored him from afar. Many months passed and despite the continued assurances from the psychic and the large amounts of money she was being  paid, nothing changed or happened in the situation… The man did not come to her as was promised.

The woman then told the psychic that she had lost faith in her.  She no longer needed or wanted her services or to keep paying her. The woman had just contacted me and was in such great distress because the psychic had then threatened to kill her by supernatural means. The woman was terrified and feared for her life. I was able to show her that her own mind was stronger than anything that was being threatened. She finally dealt with the situation and has not been bothered by it again…

What a sad state of affairs! Sadly this is not such an unusual story… I have encountered quite a number of people over the years who have been ripped off in this or similar ways. Ignorance and fear are the weapons which those with a little knowledge can use to manipulate the naive, needy and vulnerable…

What is real and what is not…

So how can you tell what’s real? First of all, a genuine Psychic will never promise to reunite you with a loved one on the earth level. Avoid this promise and those who make it at all costs, no matter how tempted or desperate you feel…

Genuine Mediums who promise to bring you into communication with loved ones who have passed on are another matter… You should still however, question them and ask them what they do and how they work… A Medium who is for real will be happy you asked and glad to take the time to explain to the best of their ability.

Genuine Psychics will answer specific questions to the best of their ability and will wish to educate you within the Psychic and Paranormal… They will NOT wish to keep you guessing, in the dark, claim that they are all powerful or insist that you pay a huge amount of money for their help… Genuine Psychics are dedicated to you… They are committed to and have chosen to study, further and develop their abilities… They use their abilities for their own good and the good of others… Real Psychics are amazing people who are here to help, guide, heal, support and indeed, to educate and share

Psychics are also real people who have lives to live and bills to pay, so they charge what they consider to be a fair price for their time… This is acceptable and usual in all professions and Psychics are no different. They will however have a real sense of justice, fairness and honesty and should not be judgmental. A good Psychic is a person worth his or her weight in gold and someone who can make a real difference to your life…

There are many books that you can read, workshops and study groups you can attend and simple exercises that you can do to develop your own sensitivity, awareness and psychic abilities. Psychic powers are there for everyone, they are a part of us all…

There are some people who choose to be fatalistic – choosing to believe in “fate”, all the while feeling like a small boat on the sea of life. They may be being tossed around but they still don’t want to believe in or assume control…. You don’t need to be one of these people…

The truth is that we all have all our own answers to our own questions. We often however don’t trust our own answers, feelings and intuition… We perhaps let our emotions and fears get in the way and can be afraid of making a mistake. We also often don’t take the time needed to look at things and may be impatient and looking for a quick fix.

In these cases, confirmation and guidance from an outside source can be very useful indeed. A good Psychic will bring new, helpful and very real perspectives…

I sometimes feel that you can’t know what is really good until you have experienced the opposite… Perhaps the rip-off and scammer psychics exist in the scheme of things so that we might have an extreme to measure by? In any case, one should never close the door to The Psychic and Paranormal because of a negative experience because in doing so, you would be denying your very self…

The Psychic and The Paranormal is in all of us. As you go further and further along your metaphysical path, you will see that the part of us and life and that which we call “Paranormal”, is in fact very everyday and indeed, very and completely… “normal”…