We are all too familiar with the terror and anguish associated with the subject of death in Hollywood productions… The entertainment industry has exploited these views for what seems like forever… The morbid, horrifying stories of the so-called “dead”, campfire favorites, these have all been with us for so long now that it’s hard to remember when it all started…

I have been personally communicating with “dead” people for many years… Let me tell you, they rarely – if ever – take the form of white, transparent, shadowy figures as depicted in movies… They do not have white pale skin or dark sockets for eyes… In fact, they appear generally quite solid and whole. People who have passed on can have a physical manifestation to varying degrees, so that they do appear and feel solid. Very few have mastered abilities such as moving objects on a physical plane and I have yet to meet one who wanted to frighten the life out of anyone… Usually, they are dressed in everyday clothes, sometimes they appear as light or surrounded by light.

Occasionally I feel their mind and watch how it works, seeing life through their eyes, being in their reality… If they were heavily medicated when they died, I experience that too. Can I touch them? There is an unspoken understanding between us that I won’t. Sometimes they touch me or others present with me during a session, their loved ones… Their touch can be as solid and as real as a normal touch between physical people, between you and I but this usually takes practice for both the medium and the one who has passed on… It is described as Physical Mediumship and is not as popular as it was during the eighteenth century in the Western world…

Do they move around? Yes! They may appear to me younger than when they passed on, they may appear as a child and in different and varied stages of their lives, depending on whatever is relevant and helpful to the session, so that I can pass on the information to their families and friends… They can change how they look… They can also show themselves to me as they were when they died, in order to show me any illnesses and pain they had at the end.

They often display particular mannerisms and characteristics. They may for example, pace up and down the room, speak in an excited way, use or have a certain expression… Small things which help their loved ones recognize them… Often they use verbal expressions that are uncommon to others but identify them specifically to the client.

Fear of Death

The fear of death is a reflection of our own fear of living.,, The line that separates us is a concept that we all agree with. It is as real as any other concept that we “living” humans have decided to use to organize our own life and our own reality… But death is not an absolute. I enjoy Mediumship because it’s a very powerful tool to help the living have a greater understanding of both life and death, for them to see and know that there is no separation… It brings enormous comfort to those who are often going through a period of great grief.

Some of the most usual questions I am asked by loved ones are: Is the “dead” person happy? What is it like where they are? What are they doing? The answers are always varied, depending on what each so called “dead” person is experiencing, doing and being, just as they would be for those who are so-called “alive”…

I would very much like to see the boundaries between “dead” and “alive” more understood, more openly discussed and less sensationally exploited in negative ways. Until this happens, there is little chance that the everyday person will receive a positive understanding of how Mediumship works and how the ability to communicate with those who have passed on is something that we all have the potential to do…